My Daughter is now 29. She has had a look at her Biological family, Learn how things can change fast and Is getting to be a better person.
When she was 16 she wanted to find her biological family. Of course the social platform at the time Sped up the process and caused the 18 year Court rule to go out the door. We trying to stop her until she was 18 but that would not work cause she would have just gone by herself to met them. Knowing how that would have not been a safe option., We decided to set it up and take her. Yes is caused turmoil in the family.
I would say there was about 5 Years of grief on us, Today we are better. However, 2 years ago She decided to move out to where they lived and Stay with them. Got a Job and it did not go well. Ended up she had to leave there fast and move back East. As far away as she could.
So sometimes and grass is not greener on the other plain. learning that folks are not what they portray online on even in texts.
Adoption has many phases and some are not pretty. Building an adult relationship is harder then some folks or books tell you. Even though teen years are a challenge to parents, we feel that adopted children and parents have a different dynamic. Dealing with other influences of folks you do not even know. Plus the child trying to figure out what happen that a family would just give up the baby. The person wanting to know where they fit in.
PTL that our child has matured enough to know that life was good for her and that she was in the best place to be raised. Some time we have no idea what a single decision can make in once life .
