We adopted a baby from a home for unwed mothers 19 years ago. One thing we decided to do was to tell the child of the adoption. Never wanting the child to think we lied to her. How much do we tell her depended on her age and the question as well as our knowledge.
Never thought the technology would be so advanced. Today it is so easy to find ones Birth Parents. Just go online and type in "Looking for birth Parents". There are so many sites and on one there might be a birth parent looking for their baby.
Yes this is the way it happened to us. Our Daughter was 18 and decided to look for them. On a site she found someone and they knew her given name and information that only the birth parent would know. The information started to follow between them. Our daughter told us about the lady. She also had me check on some things, just to make sure this was her.
I called the Adoption agency to make sure this was indeed the lady. Once it was verified we began the process all arranging a meeting. Our ideal time and my daughters did not match. So we compromised and choose a date and place.
The place was a neutral place. A city that was close enough for them to travel to. A time that would work out for all of us. Because of her age we and the adopting agency did not feel it was a good idea to have her go by herself. We meet the birth mother and her family in January 2013. Yes it was hard for my husband and I. Wanted to be supportive but knowing that this would change our world as we knew it.
We talk with the birth Mother and got to know her family some. There was lots of tears and despair.
Now this is still hard on the family. Not only on mine but also on the Birth families. Our daughter meet her birth father last month. We were not with her, however her Birth Mother was. I stayed in contact with our daughter the whole time.
I am creating this blog so that I can share my feeling on this part of the journey. There really isn't any books on this end of the adoption process. It is so hard to go down this uncharted road. So many changes happening. Understanding ones view just might prepare another one for this side of the adoption journey.
